Safer with their fathers: Children 2.4x more likely to be killed by their mothers, boys murdered more often.

Why is the government ignoring this in its policies?

The DHHS data shows that of children abused by one parent between 2001 and 2006, 70.6% were abused by their mothers, whereas only 29.4% were abused by their fathers.

And of children who died at the hands of one parent between 2001 and 2006, 70.8% were killed by their mothers, whereas only 29.2% were killed by their fathers.

Furthermore, contrary to media portrayals that leave the viewer with the impression that only girls are ever harmed, boys constituted fully 60% of child fatalities. (Table 4-3, p. 71, Child Maltreatment 2006,, reports that 675 boys died in 2006 as compared to 454 girls).




  1. Evan says:

    Looking at the numbers, according to the US census data 20,132,000 USA citizens live with 1 parent of which 87% or 17,523,540 live with their mother and 2,617,160 live with their father. From this it should be clear that though the number of case of murder by single mothers (2,269) is 240% larger than those caused by single fathers (936) the number of children raised by single mothers is 670% larger than the number of children raised by single fathers.

    Therefore the conclusion that children are 2.4 times more likely to be murdered by their mother is entirely false as this assumes an equal sampling of both mothers and fathers which is simply not the reality of the situation.

    See the census data here:

    • Samuel Heist says:

      No, nowhere does it specifies being in single-parent-custody when the murder happened.
      Its children killed by one parent, not by a single custodial parent.
      This includes children of shared custody who were murdered.

    • Factsseeker says:

      Evan, did you read the 2006 DHHS report ? Your arithmatic is based on single-parent data. The DHHS statistics giving the % of children who were killed by their mothers is not based on single-parent families at all. Go read the report. The results are clear. Women kill their children considerably more often than fathers, taking ALL types of family into account. This is dispelling the myth that we were all brought up with, that children are safer with their mothers. Notice also, that child emotional and psychological abuse gets little attention from the government and justice authorities. They fear that mothers are much more widely culpable as indeed the stats show with other types of maltreatment. The question is whether we are really protecting children by denying that mothers can be just as harmful to children as fathers. That is the question. Its the children that need protecting.

  2. Evan says:

    The issue is that this data does not (as far as I can find) compare the number of perpetrators that are mothers or fathers, to the living arrangements of the victim. (Tables 3-13 and 3-18 in the report provide this data but for a different number of states so they cannot be accurately compared) Therefore the data is incomplete in terms of drawing the conclusions that have been drawn. It is known that more children live with their mothers than with their fathers so it seems likely that more cases of abuse would result from mothers. But (even though I attempted it but got some terms defined in the study mixed up) one cannot conclude to which extent mothers or fathers are more abusive because one must first compare the number of victims to the perpetrator as well as the likelihood that a person would live with their mother or father in order to get a per capita number. Unfortunately this study does not contain such data and therefore it is difficult to make conclusions from it.

    • Samuel Heist says:

      what’s your point? That its perfectly fine for there to be more mothers murdering their kids because they get custody more often?

      Fact is, mothers kill their children more often than fathers do, and if “who has sole custody” matters then clearly the court are wrong to award sole custody so often to mothers.
      If the court wasn’t biased and REALLY went for “the best interest of the child” then there would not be such a disparity in the numbers.

  3. Chelsea says:

    His point was that your conclusion isn’t properly substantiated because your data is skewed. He in no way suggested that it’s ok for people to kill people. Stop making stuff up, please.

    Lots of people support the struggle for equal custody. Lots of people want to deconstruct the gender stereotypes that oppress men. But no sensible person is going to support your group while you use skewed statistics to demonize mothers and vindicate fathers under the pretence of demanding “equality and justice for everyone.” If custody were equal and the playing field were equal, as it should be, it is likely that mothers and fathers would be found equally responsible for abuse/death. Please stop making it seem like kids are safer with their fathers, when the truth is that they’re equally safe/unsafe with either parent. THAT is gender equality, thank you.

    • Samuel Heist says:

      We (most MHRAs I know) would love to, because as hard to believe it might be right now, we do indeed are in agreement over true equality and that neither genders are more violent toward children (or toward anyone for that matter).

      The number of violent and abusive men and women are in reality equal, the number of reported ones, and the number of enabled ones (i.e. gets away with it), aren’t.

      Women literally get away with murder in this country, so long as they can claim abuse, or mental/hormonal instability, or other factors due to being a weak minded and feeble woman with no self control, solely a product of male influence.
      People need to be confronted with how much BS this is.

      We may disagree on method, but we seem to agree on what is the truth about violence: it’s not a gendered issue.


      • Mythago says:

        Chelsea’s totally right. You can’t use skewed statistics to demonize a group and expect it to not be called out unless one is a rape apologist. For instance 1 in 4 female students will be raped or sexually assaulted while in college/uni. Now we know that this has been debunked (by misogynists) and seems to change from feminist group to feminist blog eg 1 in 3 , I in 2, 1 in 5, 2 in 3 and that the original amount was approx 18 percent of women in their lifetime will or may be sexually assaulted and that it’s not that feminists are saying all men are potential rapists it’s only when they are around women or girls that we should be considered rapists so girls feel safe. So it’s wrong for men to be offended when we’re called rapists or potential rapists because were confused and victim blaming and patriarchy hurts men too and feminism will solve men’s problems because patriarchy. Your welcome!

        • Derrx says:

          You’re so out of touch, it’s sad. Your first comment: Don’t demonize on a skewed statistic- yet you simply won’t look at the data because it does not fit YOUR AGENDA. Fact: Women kill more babies (infanticide) and kill more kids. Your “access” argument is flawed. based on YOUR LOGIC, we should then create “safe zones” for these poor kids so they’re not murdered by their male-hating mothers! And hey! That’s right! being male puts you a SIGNIFICANTLY MORE RISK of death and injury from two-bit Moms AND most of the world. Oh, and men get to look at huge imbalance in suicide rates too. So, in YOUR WORDS, let me say this: it’s not that all you women are horrible baby snuffers and child killers… it’s just that you ALL HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO BE. So please, stay away from children and only interact with them while under supervision, as your gender has clearly demonstrated it’s deadly potential (and possible agenda). You’re not a child-murder apologist are you? ARE YOU? No? Good! But I’m sorry, you still do have the potential to kill, so as a precaution, please stay away from all kids from now on. Okay?

    • spermdoner says:

      You are making excuses for child abusers .

  4. Frontierguy03 says:

    Do children not live in domestic situations? Why are these statistics not included when it comes to domestic violence( not intimate partner violence)? Perhaps it is because it would reveal the true violent nature of many women. I have noticed that some of the newer reports no longer indicate the gender of the abusive parent.

  5. spermdoner says:

    The fact of the matter is child abuse is effected mostly by women. Whether you feel the stats are skewed or not because more women have custody is not relevant. Chelsea and Mythago are excusing child abuse…….child abuse apologists.

    The point of the MRA campaign is to protest the “Don’t that guy” poster campaign which points to all men as potential rapists that need to be taught not to rape . The fact is the vast majority men do not rape women and don’t physically abuse women and those dysfunctional individuals that do rape and abuse will not be convinced by a poster . The campaign is effective at demonizing a whole class of people as “potential rapists”. Spreading unnecessary mistrust and even hatred that all men are forced to bear in todays society.

    It is wrong to demonize a whole class of people for the actions of a minority of that class . We would not tolerate a campaign directed at black men “Don’t be that Criminal” that would be considered racist and rightly so……… campaigns directed at all men contain in essence that very same bigotry.

    The MRA campaign knows that it is wrong to demonize a whole group for the actions of a few . The intent is to point out the blatant hypocrisy that so many people in our society have a cognitive dissonance towards.

    “In the last few years, there has been an unfortunate trend towards blaming “rape culture”
    for the extensive problem of sexual violence on campuses. While it is helpful to point out
    the systemic barriers to addressing the problem, it is important to not lose sight of a simple
    fact: Rape is caused not by cultural factors but by the conscious decisions, of a small
    percentage of the community, to commit a violent crime.”

    From the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network……RAINN

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